1. My mom worked at a gas station for about a year a couple of years ago. While she worked there, she became friends with a co-worker. This co-worker of hers is about my age. We have hung out some here and there and the families have gotten together on several occasions and holidays. Over the last three years though, I have seen less and less of her. She has two kids and had met a sweet man who also had a kid. I met bee, moved an hour away, and let's face it, she is a whole lot closer with my mom and my sister anyway. She got married this summer. Everyone knows Summer is my busiest time. She sent, a VERBAL invite to me, Bee, and the kids to her wedding VIA my parents. I asked several times "Is it a Saturday, or a Sunday? If it's a Sunday, we will be there. If it's a Saturday, we can not. Football." I was told it was a SUNDAY. 5 days before the wedding, I saw her for 15 seconds at my parents Anniversary party. My sister forgot to invite them, and invited them last second. They were busy, but stopped by. My parents party was 8 minutes from their house. Anyway, while there, they handed my sister a flyer with directions to their wedding and said "Make sure your sister knows how to get there". I asked once AGAIN, Saturday or Sunday. I was told two days before the wedding, it was actually SATURDAY. I couldn't make it. She is REALLY pissed at me. I say, get over yourself.
2. Love is difficult. In a long term relationship you walk a fine line between happy and content and comfortable with each other and boredom, complacency, and safeness. After what has happened in my life, I am scared to death. However, things have been way better and I think it was a wake up call. Hopefully, it's heeded and not ignored in the long run.....
3. My boyfriend's ex wife is beyond my comprehension. After telling Bee to kiss off a few months ago (which, that in itself is comical...) All she talks about to the kids is her boyfriend John this....her boyfriend John that....he is so rich....he will buy you 4-wheelers....we will pay for college...She told the kids all this and Bee mentioned he was happy to see their mom trying to buy them off, to which "C" replied, " Oh, no! She wants us to NOT take that stuff into account when we make our decision on who we want to live with." I just about jumped out of my skin. REALLY?! We sat them down and explained that "Full Custody" meant basically, they get to read/write her letters, and visit her from time to time out of the kindness of our hearts. Legally, she has no rights to her kids. When she gets out, it will be the word and attempts of a Felon vs. two law abiding citizens who have already provided a stable and loving environment for them. Living with mom is NOT going to happen.
4. Speaking of mom's boyfriend...the kids have never met him. From how they talked, we had the impression The grandparents hadn't either, and more importantly, SHE had never met him. (I know...take a moment and let that all sink in...) So, when in her most recent communique with the kids (a package for C on her birthday) a note said "Keep an eye out for an extra special present from John and I!" I freaked. Because thinking about it, I was afraid it might be a cell phone so that she can talk to her mom whenever. Then, it freaked me out even MORE that some strange man (who I think lives in a different state), has my kids's name and address...I told Bee and he freaked too. So, we talked to the grandparents about it on Sunday...Yeah, no one has met this dude..why? Oh yeah, that's right...HE is in FEDERAL PRISON TOO!!!! However, HE still has access to his computer and runs his business from the "inside". At least I know he is not a child molester, a rapist, or any other violent crime offender...This woman will never see her kids without supervision again...or at least until they are 18...Because two felons living together is against their probation's (when they get out) to begin with...and Bee and I will NOT allow them to see the kids by themselves...
It all boggles my mind, ya'll....
I feel like the ONLY one out of this whole situation who has ANY common sense.
Bee- Loves his kids. Really does. However, dealing with the ex takes him to a dark place, so he prefers to stick his head in the sand and ignore EVERYTHING because it will either work itself out, or go away.
EX: HATES Bee, for moving on and divorcing her. Wants to do anything and everything to hurt him and piss him off...yet all of it is really just a desperate cry to "look at me! Take me back!"
New Boyfriend : Mixed up in all of this. He is going to get bled dry, and left...either because she will find someone else, or end up BACK in prison...my guess is on the latter
Grand Parents: They are happy EX has a boyfriend because that equals someone to take care of her which means she won't be living with them. Yet, the whole situation is way embarrassing. What will people think? On top of dealing with their other kid who is getting a divorce...which is really the shocker of the family.
The one thing missing from all of this? Who is thinking of the KIDS?! Yeah, that would be me. The only one out of this equation (well, maybe the new boyfriend...I don't know anything about him) who does not share DNA with these kids, nor do I have any flesh and blood kids of my own....
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